Team sports on a whole call for a good relationship between the players to be successful. In football or soccer, as it is known in some countries around the world, we can find synonymous qualities of a good relationship. Please read on as we discussed six similarities of Soccer teams and a marriage in a bit more details.
You Should Celebrate Your Wins
There is nothing like the feeling of winning. You should always acknowledge your wins as they do in a team. Not every win will be as big as winning the “World Cup”. For every win in your relationship, you and your husband should celebrate to keep the team spirits high. You can enjoy the moment by going out to a nice dinner together. The excitement can also be extended by having a little party at home to celebrate paying off your mortgage. The more you acknowledge and celebrate your wins, the stronger the bonds will be in your marriage.
You Have a Lot of Spectators Looking on
The spectators of a team give support and cheer on their team to achieve their goals and of course to score goals. While your family, friends and neighbours will not number as many, they are following you in the same way. Your spectators may be loyal supporters or bandwagonists. You should differentiate them and treat them accordingly. Your loyal supporters will be there when things are difficult. So you should keep communications open with this group. They are the ones who really care about your marriage.
You Must Quickly Forgive Mistakes and Move on
Another similarity of Soccer teams and a marriage is that everyone will make mistakes now and then. On a team, it is important to forgive and move on as there must be trust. If a player does not trust his teammate to make the right pass or protect the ball, then this affects the performance of the entire team. This is also the same for your marriage. If a prior mistake has led you to not trusting your husband to carry out a task, then it has made your team weaker. As great as you are, you cannot do it all. You need your teammate to do his part to be successful. So you have to forgive and move on.
Having a Great Coach is an Advantage
A great coach can be the difference between success and failure on a Soccer team and in your marriage. Your relationship coach can help you and your husband to be more cohesive in working together. A coach can point out areas for improvement. Just as a football coach will try to find the best way to approach a match, your relationship coach will have experience that can guide you to your goal.
An Own Goal Sets the Team Back
While unintentional and sometimes unavoidable, scoring a goal against your own team will be a setback. In a marriage, this can be as simple as speaking about something that is private or may be hurtful about your spouse inadvertently. It is easier to forgive and move on in this scenario. However, you both must work that much harder to overcome it. The people who mean you no good will always try to make good use of this. So it is important to be united and keep moving forward.
When You Are Prepared It Helps
Preparation is a major key to success for a Soccer team and your marriage. For a team, this means being physically able to compete for ninety plus minutes and knowing which formation to use. For your marriage to be successful you should also ensure that you are prepared for the challenges that may face you. Make a plan that will encompass your commitments and endeavour to stick to your schedule. Always prioritize goals and give yourself enough time to get the important things done. Your husband may need reminders for his tasks. So use the tools available to you such as the reminder on your phone to help him out. It is easier to call or text your husband than it is to make other arrangements.
Having a successful relationship is the goal to strive for. Even though this is not entirely dependent on you, you must play your part to make a winning team. The Wise Wife Manifesto as 15 tips to help you do just that.
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