3 Ways To Bring More Intimacy Into Your Marriage
Intimacy is often viewed as sexual relations, which is really just one aspect of intimacy. Intimacy can be emotional as well as physical. One aspect of emotional intimacy in a marriage is how comfortable you are with sharing your ideas or views with your husband. If you are somewhat reluctant to let your spouse know how you feel about something because you don’t think that they will be interested or may even dismiss you, then you could benefit from raising the emotional intimacy in your relationship. This is the first instalment in a series of articles that will offer suggestions on how you can bring more non-sexual intimacy into your marriage.
Three hugs a day
We all know the “an apple a day keeps the doctor away” saying, which points to keeping a healthy body. But what are you doing to keep a healthy intimate connection with your husband? Hugs, hugs and more hugs is the prescription. A hug in the morning, before you go your separate ways, a hug when you reunite and always hug before going to bed. They may not say it, but some men like hugs a lot. Your husband may need hugs more than you do but they may not say so. Some men even have “bro hugs” and hugs when their team does well. So don’t believe it for a second if your husband says he doesn’t like hugs. That’s just posturing. This increase in physical contact is also very good for the both of you mentally, so don’t be stingy with the hugs. Adding a kiss to a hug is also highly encouraged.
Everyone has a smart phone these days and if you don’t then you should for the sake of your other half. It doesn’t take a lot of time to send a quick text to your husband. You just may be giving him what he needs to brighten up his day. You can always use emojis or share a romantic picture or video, your imagination is your only limitation. You can start a romantic conversation one word or phrase at a time and see how your partner responds to this. You can also have private conversations with your husband on social media or share something that you like about him. The age of the Internet is wonderful and it opens up many ways to share and interact by using a variety of apps.
Why did you and your husband have so much fun when you were dating but not anymore now that you are married? Being married doesn’t mean that there’s no more time for fun or that you don’t need to have a good time with your spouse anymore. On the contrary, it is important to take a night off and go out dancing, singing karaoke or even having a games night with your family. There are so many things that you can and should do together that are easy and affordable and can bring some intimacy back into your relationship. Dancing together can be so intimate and therapeutic that if you do nothing else this is a must. Don’t be afraid to be goofy with your husband. Karaoke is an awesome way to have goofy fun together with a duet or group song. Dressing up and getting out of the house is also a way to remind him just how gorgeous you are and gives you a chance to make his heart skip a beat. If you’re not in the mood for going out, then there is lots of fun to be had with many simple games that will have you and yours laughing and can provide many intimate moments. A touch there, a wink here, gazing into each other’s eyes or complimenting a well-played move. There are a plethora of ways that playing games together can improve intimacy with your spouse. You just have to make the time and effort to do it.
Please join us next time when we’ll look at more ways to bring intimacy into your marriage. Don’t forget to comment on this article as your thoughts and experiences are highly valued.